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The first message on Dating-app in Japan, to get a reply!

Even though you matched with a pretty woman on a Dating-app in Japan,
no-reply from her. So? How to get a reply from her?

I read a survey of 2291 Japanese women about it.
And then, I searched similar but non-Japanese articles.

Refer to American Media:
WHAT’S YOUR IDEA OF THE PERFECT FIRST MESSAGE ON A DATING APP?

The Japanese women's expectation of the first message on a dating app is way different from non-Japanese women's.
And those articles convinced me of those differences.

So, you should know what kind of the first message Japanese women like!


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In Japan, the message sounds not funny or very passionate.
And tend to a bit longer.
Maybe it sounds a boring message because it's stiff.
But, that is the Japanese style
!

If a Japanese woman gets just a funny flirting short text from a guy as the first message, she would label the guy is "Chara-o (チャラ男)" = Shallow, Playboy.
And of course, she highly likely won't reply.

The first message means a message to a stranger, so, Japanese people wanna be polite and kinda formal, it's not casual from the beginning.


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10 Good Examples for the first message

【Rerence】女性目線で選ぶ!返信が来る初回メッセージ例文集: https://www.pairs.lv/pairs_manual/1stmsgsample/




初めまして!キャンプが好きなコミュニティが共通で話が合いそうだったのでいいね!しました!
最近はキャンプに関するYoutubeばかり見てしまいます。よろしくお願いします!

Nice to meet you! I sent 'LIKE' to you because I found we have a common interest in "Camping". I guess we can enjoy talking about it.
I recently watching YouTube about camping so much.
I look forward to hearing from you!




はじめまして!プロフィールにある風景写真がとても素敵だったのでいいね!しました。僕もいろいろな風景を撮影するが好きなのでぜひお話しましょう!よろしくお願いします!

Nice to meet you! I sent you 'LIKE' because your profile has very nice scenic photographs and I like it. I also like taking scenic photographs, so, I'd love to talk to you!
I look forward to hearing from you!




はじめまして、いいね!ありがとうございます!
つぶやきに書かれているアニメ、僕も毎週見ているのでぜひお話したいなと思っていいね!しました!

Nice to meet you! Thank you for your 'LIKE'!
I too weekly enjoy watching the anime you mention in your profile. So, I sent you 'LIKE' because I'd love to talk with you!




はじめまして!マッチングありがとうございます!
お互いスポーツ観戦が好きで趣味や価値観が合いそうだったのでいいね!しました!◯◯さんが特によく見るスポーツはありますか?

Nice to meet you! Thank you for matching me!
I sent you 'LIKE' because we both like watching sports and it seems like we have a common hobby or value. {Name}, do you have any particular sports you watch a lot?




マッチングありがとうございます。◯◯といいます!
好きな映画作品が僕の好みとドンピシャでした!最近のおすすめがあれば、よければ聞かせてください!

Thank you for matching me! My name is {Name}!
Your favorite movies are a perfect match with my preference!
Do you have any recent recommendations? Please let me know!




マッチングありがとうございます、◯◯です!
僕も旅行と温泉が好きなので、おすすめの場所あれば教えて下さい!

Thank you for matching me, I am {Name}!
I too like traveling and Onsen hot springs, so, please let me know your recommendations!




はじめまして、◯◯といいます!
自己紹介に書かれてるドラマ、僕も好きでいつも見てますー!いろいろ話したいです!よろしくお願いします。”

Nice to meet you, my name is {}!
The TV series you wrote in your profile, actually I too like it and always enjoy watching it!
I'd love to talk about many things with you!
I look forward to hearing from you!




はじめまして、マッチングありがとうございます!◯◯といいます!
好きなマンガとアニメがすごい合うのでいろいろ語りましょう

Nice to meet you, and, thank you for matching me! My name is {}!
Your favorite Manga and Anime are a perfect match with my favorite ones,
so, let's talk deeply about many things!




こんにちは、◯◯といいます!
2枚目の写真すごい素敵です。海外ですか?僕も旅行と写真が好きなのでぜひお話しましょう!

Hello, my name is {Name}!
Your second pic looks awesome. Is it overseas?
I too like traveling and taking pictures, so, I'd love to talk with you!




こんにちは、マッチングありがとうございます!!
同じ千葉県出身で僕も某遊園地にしょっちゅう一人でも遊びに行ってるので気が合いそうですね!よろしくです。

Hello, thank you for matching me!
I'm from the same Chiba prefecture and I also frequently going to the certain amusement park even with alone, so, it seems we would get along well!
I look forward to your reply.


Japanese women comment about guys first messages

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When the guy write his introduction and he wrote his real name, it's nice. I feel like replying to him.

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He should tell his real name. I think that is kinda politeness. And I feel safe if he does that.

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I like him to mention about my tweet.
It makes me feel easy to communicate with him.


If he asked me about something I've already written in my profile,
I think, "Why he sent me 'LIKE' although he didn't read my profile!"


So many guys' first messages are only "Thank you for matching me" or so.
In such a case, I only wanna say "you're welcome", and there is nothing else to continue the conversation.

CHECK !!