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Meaning of Japanese Dating-culture “kokuhaku”? How to do it?

You would be able to make the Japanese girl moved if you do "kokuhaku (告白)" properly,
for sure!

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When is the right timing to do "kukohaku"?

Japanese dating keyword "kokuhaku (告白)" means "confess your love" or "declare your love".

While people spend "just dating, but no commitment yet" time for weeks or months and they become the committed BF/GF after such a test phase in most of the other countries, Japanese people start a BF/GF relationship by "kokuhaku (告白)"commitment from the beginning.

Not many, but, some guys do it the end of their first date if he felt the chemistry. (kinda fast! but possible)
Maybe, the average is a few friendly dates.
And some guys do "kokuhaku (告白)" when he wants to kiss her, and then after she accepts his "kokuhaku (告白)"they do the first kiss because they became official BF/GF.


Typical "kokuhaku" words are…

"Suki desu. (好きです) Tsukiatte kudasai (付き合ってください)”
= I really like you. Will you officially go out with me?

OR...

"Boku no kanojyo ni natte kudasai
(僕の彼女になってください)"
= Will you be my girlfriend?

Very simple, right?

You don't need to kneel like a marriage proposal.
Just be sincere and romantic.
Flower or something? No need, but it absolutely makes her moved so much.


Does it mean I do no longer date with someone else?

Of course, after "kokuhaku" you guys are official BF/GF,
so, if you flirt with others it is guilty, it is cheating.

But, no one can know if we are ok for commit as an official BF/GF in such a beginning without a dating phase! What if we notice soon that the person is not the right partner?

Just break up, with sincere way.

So, basically, Japanese guys do "kokuhaku"very carefully with their strong determination.
I think it came from kinda noble-minded SAMURAI spirit, "determination first" and then "matching words with deeds".
And as well-known,
if he fails, he does "hara-kiri (腹切り)"self-disembowelment suicide.
OMG! (Joking...)


What's the problem in the case of a Japanese girl and a foreign guy?

If you go on several dates without "kokuhaku",
the Japanese woman definitely confuses
"Are we official BF/GF?".
Especially, if you try to be romantic with her,
maybe she misunderstands "We are already official BF/GF".
That's a huge trouble, right?
How many dates before kiss or sex,
it totally depends on the woman, it's a kinda controversial matter all over the world and the same in Japan.
But, commonly Japanese women don't like such physical contact before commitment.

Guys! Be Samurai! Be clear about your commitment,
do "kokuhaku"!
She would be moved by your respectful behavior!

CHECK !!


Summary
【Meaning of Japanese Dating-culture “kokuhaku”? How to do it?】

1:Common timing to do “kukohaku” is after having a few dates.

2:Typical “kokuhaku” words are“Boku no kanojyo ni natte kudasai”

3:If you flirt with others after "kokuhaku", it is guilty, it is cheating.

4:Several dates without “kokuhaku” make the Japanese woman confused. Don't!