Frequency of sex,
why only the number of Japan is crazy low?
About sex, what is such a big difference between Japan and other countries???
“SEXY” is one of the big compliments you want to be said from others in your country, isn’t it?
"What is the happiest compliment about your attractiveness (from women/men)?"
According to recent Japanese research, this is a very symbolic result showing the Japanese mindset.
This list is in this order from the upside.
|Japanese men glad if he is said below (Top 7):|
|１：Tender-hearted / kind|
２：Smart / intelligent
３：Fun / humor
４：Good-looking / Handsome
|Japanese women glad if she is said below (Top 7):|
２：Tender-hearted / kind
５：Good-looking / Pretty
６：Smart / intelligent
７：Fun / humor
See! There is not the word "SEXY” at all!
In fact, one very recent research says,
Of course, I believe it depends on the situation, but,
generally "sexy" is not a very positive word.
That is Japan.
In Japan, the image of the word "sexy" or "sexiness" seems like vulgar, obscene, dirty, or sometimes people feel to be said like "less intelligent" or "foolish".
Sexiness has not been established in a positive position.
If someone is openly talking about sex, or if someone's clothes showing a lot of skin, in many cases the other people think the person is less intelligent or less sophisticated.
Sex education in school or home is so different from western countries
I heard that school teachers or parents teach like "great sex is very important for great relationship" as sex education in some western countries.
For us Japanese, it is a huge surprise!
Unfortunately, we never have such a positive education at all!
In old Japanese literature, the word "himegoto (秘め事)"
had been used to describe sex. "himegoto (秘め事)“ means "secret things". It comes from the idea that sex has to be something hidden.
And the other word "hajirai (恥じらい)".
Woman's "hajirai (恥じらい)“is a great sexiness that makes Japanese men turn-on.
"hajirai (恥じらい)“ means "shyness"!
While in many other countries people think "shyness" is not sexy,
it sounds like the opposite in Japan!
Anyway, sex or sexiness is a very embarrassing topic in Japan.
While in many other countries, being active/positive about sex is "quite beautiful natural thing but no need to feel shame",
in Japan that is not.
I know, now you think ...
"Hey! What about the Japanese great porn industry!".
I'm gonna explain it. ↓